How Do I Determine the Experience and Characteristics My Family Needs in a Nanny?

August 20, 2025

How Do I Determine the Experience and Characteristics My Family Needs in a Nanny?

Every family is different, and the “right” nanny depends on your household dynamic, parenting style, and children’s unique personalities. Families who take time to define their needs before interviewing candidates have a smoother placement process and longer-lasting relationships. TLC for Kids has been helping families with this process for over 40 years, and we’ve seen that clear priorities make all the difference.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

  • Ages of children: Infant nannies need specialized experience with feeding schedules, tummy time, and sleep training, while school-aged children benefit from homework help, carpool support, and structured activities.

  • Personality fit: Do you prefer a nanny who is playful and high-energy, or calm and steady? Should they mirror your parenting style (structured, Montessori-inspired, creative, etc.)?

  • Lifestyle match: Do you need a nanny comfortable with travel, irregular hours, or juggling multiple kids’ schedules?

  • Household needs: Will they handle children’s laundry, meal prep, and tidying play areas — or is the focus purely on childcare?

  • Special skills: Second language, musical background, tutoring skills, or special needs training.

  • Longevity: Are you hoping for someone who can grow with your children for years, or a shorter-term commitment?

TLC Tip (from 40 years of placements): We recommend families create two lists — “non-negotiables” (skills, certifications, schedule requirements) and “nice-to-haves” (personal interests or hobbies). This helps narrow the field without overlooking candidates who may not be a perfect match on paper but could thrive with your family.