How Do I Determine the Perfect Fit Nanny?

How Do I Determine the Experience and Characteristics My Family Needs in a Nanny?

What makes a perfect fit? That is the ultimate question. I meet hundreds of nannies each year, and every single one I meet is different. And every family is different. Being a nanny is a highly personal profession. So how do you find that nanny that fits your family perfectly? 

Every family is different, and the “right” nanny depends on your household dynamic, parenting style, and children’s unique personalities. Families who take time to define their needs before interviewing candidates have a smoother placement process and longer-lasting relationships.

First, sit down with your partner (and a big glass of wine!) and ask yourselves some tough questions.

What are the ages of the children?  Infant nannies need specialized experience with feeding schedules, tummy time, and sleep training, while school-aged children benefit from homework help, carpool support, and structured activities. A nanny is a good fit if she has experience with the ages of your children. 

What is the “personality” of your family? Do you prefer a nanny who is playful and high-energy, or calm and steady? Should they mirror your parenting style (structured, Montessori-inspired, creative, etc.)? Or do you want someone who offers up a different option for the kids? Do you need a nanny comfortable with travel, irregular hours, or juggling multiple kids’ schedules? Will your nanny have a predictable schedule, or does the schedule depend on the week?

What are your household needs: Will they handle children’s laundry, meal prep, and tidying play areas — or is the focus purely on childcare? Are you a tidy home, or a little more free-wheeling? Do you have a set snack list, or do you trust the kids to choose? Will the nanny be responsible for calling the leaf guy or the dishwasher repairman?

Does your nanny need any special skills? Second language, musical background, tutoring skills, or functional needs training can all be crucial to a fit with your family. A nanny who skis or swims can make a big difference. Even a nanny who has the same sort of sense of humor can ease difficult scenarios in your home. Think of what makes your family stand out. 

Think of longevity! Are you hoping for someone who can grow with your children for years, or a shorter-term commitment? Is this just until they are in preschool, or do you want a nanny who will grow with the kids until they are playing football and learning to drive? 

Once you and your partner have defined what you need, it will be possible to write a useful, practical job description and share with us what you are looking for. Don’t worry that your list is long and full of dreams. You will have to compromise on some things. But you will also just maybe find that Spanish-speaking, swimming, nanny who loves to do dishes and play princess with your 3-year-old. And that is a win we are all looking for!

TLC Tip (from 40 years of placements): We recommend families create two lists — “non-negotiables” (skills, certifications, schedule requirements) and “nice-to-haves” (personal interests or hobbies). This helps narrow the field without overlooking candidates who may not be a perfect match on paper but could thrive with your family.